Comments on: My Residual Feminism http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/ Sat, 21 Jan 2012 16:06:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: C'tina http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-265 C'tina Sun, 06 Apr 2008 22:40:41 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-265 http://marcys.wordpress.com/2007/07/30/the-difference-between-mom-and-dad/ sad if true or not...not over thinking the issue, just something basic....if true or not... http://marcys.wordpress.com/2007/07/30/the-difference-between-mom-and-dad/ sad if true or not…not over thinking the issue, just something basic….if true or not…

]]> By: Marjorie http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-264 Marjorie Fri, 04 Jan 2008 00:42:28 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-264 Candace--the first time I read your blog, I read an entry you wrote about PPD and it absolutely took my breath away--there's not a way in the world a person could read your blog and maintain any ignorant illusion of the "home raising babies and life is over" stereotype. That's what is so breathtaking, to me, about the mothering (mothering in particular because that's where my head usually is right now) blogs that I feel privileged to read--they just smash those stereotypes. Makes you wonder where that vacuously-smiling-bathroom-cleaning-sitcom-mom even came from, because she ain't us. Thanks for these comments. Candace–the first time I read your blog, I read an entry you wrote about PPD and it absolutely took my breath away–there’s not a way in the world a person could read your blog and maintain any ignorant illusion of the “home raising babies and life is over” stereotype. That’s what is so breathtaking, to me, about the mothering (mothering in particular because that’s where my head usually is right now) blogs that I feel privileged to read–they just smash those stereotypes. Makes you wonder where that vacuously-smiling-bathroom-cleaning-sitcom-mom even came from, because she ain’t us.

Thanks for these comments.

]]> By: Candace http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-263 Candace Sat, 29 Dec 2007 02:57:59 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-263 I love what you said in 3. That it pisses you off, the misguided stereotypes. I find strength in blogs like yours because they inspire me to write my truth. I know what I "sound" like to some folks what with my typical I'm just home raising babies and my life is over and I have dealt with PPD. It's scary to write those things because of how they can be lumped and misunderstood and devalued. But I ALWAYS breathe in inspiration from what you write and it makes me want to help breakdown the myth of the SAHM.... (ugh, labels suck.) I would feel bad for the guy because you are so much smarter than him. But he's not intelligent enough to realize that is the case. I love what you said in 3.
That it pisses you off, the misguided stereotypes. I find strength in blogs like yours because they inspire me to write my truth. I know what I “sound” like to some folks what with my typical I’m just home raising babies and my life is over and I have dealt with PPD. It’s scary to write those things because of how they can be lumped and misunderstood and devalued.
But I ALWAYS breathe in inspiration from what you write and it makes me want to help breakdown the myth of the SAHM…. (ugh, labels suck.)
I would feel bad for the guy because you are so much smarter than him. But he’s not intelligent enough to realize that is the case.

]]> By: Tracee Sioux http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-262 Tracee Sioux Thu, 27 Dec 2007 16:57:49 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-262 Those who don't get it - and spend their time and energy assaulting it and criticizing it - don't WANT to get it. They are in it for the fight. They feed off their own negativity and try to drag us into it. It's really just a massive lack of empathy. We really must try harder to get empathy into the boys we raise. I'm not sure if I should even look to see if I was chosen for his attack. Those who don’t get it – and spend their time and energy assaulting it and criticizing it – don’t WANT to get it.

They are in it for the fight. They feed off their own negativity and try to drag us into it. It’s really just a massive lack of empathy. We really must try harder to get empathy into the boys we raise.

I’m not sure if I should even look to see if I was chosen for his attack.

]]> By: blue milk http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-261 blue milk Sun, 23 Dec 2007 02:38:49 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-261 ... aspire to it. I mean. … aspire to it. I mean.

]]> By: blue milk http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-260 blue milk Sun, 23 Dec 2007 02:38:25 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-260 Only someone with all the autonomy they could ever hope for could possibly suggest so determinedly that others not aspire for it. White male drowning in privellege I think. Only someone with all the autonomy they could ever hope for could possibly suggest so determinedly that others not aspire for it. White male drowning in privellege I think.

]]> By: c-a http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-259 c-a Wed, 19 Dec 2007 22:11:01 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-259 I think blue milk's response was great - he chose to select answers that fit his political ideas instead of looking at the multifaceted discussion that arises from the intersection of motherhood and feminism. I think blue milk’s response was great – he chose to select answers that fit his political ideas instead of looking at the multifaceted discussion that arises from the intersection of motherhood and feminism.

]]> By: Theresa http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-258 Theresa Wed, 19 Dec 2007 12:30:23 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-258 "Say what?" is right. The blogosphere is weird. At least you turned the whole event into an interesting and yes, inspiring post. How do you do that? “Say what?” is right. The blogosphere is weird. At least you turned the whole event into an interesting and yes, inspiring post. How do you do that?

]]> By: Christine http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-256 Christine Tue, 18 Dec 2007 20:23:34 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-256 Reads to me like the guy just grabbed whatever anecdotal "evidence" he could find so that he could twist it to suit he preconceptions. Some solid science there! Reads to me like the guy just grabbed whatever anecdotal “evidence” he could find so that he could twist it to suit he preconceptions. Some solid science there!

]]> By: radical mama http://www.280main.com/2007/12/my-residual-feminism/comment-page-1/#comment-257 radical mama Tue, 18 Dec 2007 14:28:21 +0000 http://280main.wordpress.com/2007/12/17/my-residual-feminism/#comment-257 Interesting that "autonomy and independence" are two words that are never contradictory to traditional masculinity. And he is no different. Interesting that “autonomy and independence” are two words that are never contradictory to traditional masculinity. And he is no different.

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